Much more than just a new home

March 21, 2021 - 08:36

Stella Ciorra, vice chairwoman of Friends of Vietnam Heritage, not only loves Vietnamese heritage but also its culture, and especially áo dài. She spoke with Ngô Minh about why.

Stella Ciorra, vice chairwoman of Friends of Vietnam Heritage, not only loves Vietnamese heritage but also its culture, and especially áo dài. She spoke with Ngô Minh about why.

HIGH REGARD: Vice Chairwoman of Friends of Vietnam Heritage, Stella Ciorra (centre), greatly admires Vietnamese culture and heritage. VNS Photo Nguyễn Á

Inner Sanctum: How did you come to Việt Nam and join Friends of Vietnam Heritage (FVH)?

I first visited Việt Nam as a tourist in November 1995. I then returned so many times that it felt like I lived here right from the start. I decided to actually come here to live in 2009.

By 2011, I wanted to experience something different and understand the culture and get below the surface of what I already knew. Through some Vietnamese friends, I found out about FVH and the rest is history. It’s the most amazing cultural and heritage organisation anyone could wish for.

Inner Sanctum: How is FVH run and funded?

It was founded in October 1999 as a cultural and heritage organisation. We are not a for-profit educational society, and our event fees are simply to cover costs. It is run by a committee, which has now grown to about 12 volunteers, and we are so happy that about 70 per cent of the committee are Vietnamese. It meets once a month. We have a monthly programme of events that are led by a committee member. Anyone who wants to sign up for an event does so with the organiser of that event. We keep our events small, as that is the most effective way for people to get the best out of them. Every single event is on a specific topic relating to the history, heritage, culture, and traditions of Việt Nam.

About 400-500 people are active members but we have an additional 500 who have left Việt Nam but remain on the mailing list so they stay up-to-date and can join an event if or when they are here next. Members include ambassadors and embassy staff and spouses, NGO heads, World Bank staff, and international school teachers.

Inner Sanctum: What is the level of interest among foreigners in Việt Nam’s heritage and culture?

So many foreigners adore the local heritage and culture. There are of course a number who are not interested, as it’s not why they are here and they would never join. But FVH members truly respect, admire and honour the heritage and culture of Việt Nam. Many are interested in exploring and researching more about Việt Nam and take part in cultural activities not just run by FVH but also specialised individual workshops and classes run by Vietnamese. And many foreign women have bought áo dài (the national dress) to wear on special occasions. We feel this is a way to honour Việt Nam and show our respect for the country.

Inner Sanctum: How about your work in Việt Nam, apart from FVH?

I work with a wonderful boutique hotel group in Hà Nội and also as a content writer introducing people to the culture of Hà Nội, Hội An, and Việt Nam.

Inner Sanctum: You have appeared on talk-shows and TV programmes dressed in an áo dài. What do you think of the role the áo dài plays in Vietnamese culture?

With any culture and country, I believe the national dress is one of the most defining characteristics and is an important way to show the individuality and culture of a country. Việt Nam’s national dress is an important symbol. It is graceful, slender, and beautiful -- just like Việt Nam itself.

One must not forget that it is an outfit for both men and women. The modern version of the women’s áo dài is, of course, quite different from the original and traditional style, so one could say it has mirrored the development of Vietnamese culture and society, keeping up with the times but still retaining the essence of tradition.

Nowadays Vietnamese women dress in áo dài for group photos, graduation photos, days out, and important occasions. I would love for it to go further, and for more people to wear áo dài as their daily outfit.

Inner Sanctum: Do you enjoy fashion shows featuring modern áo dài? How would you comment on the creativity and effort of designers in promoting the áo dài?

The outfit is both traditional and modern. Many modern designers use the traditional áo dài style to create a new look while retaining its key elements. And while a modern style may overtake tradition, it’s good to see that the áo dài is still regarded as a very important form of dress. So, promoting it for modern-day tastes is a positive step, because designers are keeping a tradition alive.

Inner Sanctum: As a foreigner, how did you adapt to the local culture and lifestyle?

Personally, I found it extremely easy. I knew back in 1995 that Việt Nam would one day be my home. And the reason I came here to live is that I wanted to feel more Vietnamese and live my life here.

One thing I can’t explain and I still don’t understand myself is how some things that are an issue for me in the UK are no problem at all for me in Việt Nam. In the UK, I hate noise, I can’t sleep with noise, but in Việt Nam the daily noise doesn’t bother me.

In the UK, I like my own space and to live by myself, but since 2015 in Việt Nam I’ve shared a house with friends who are a Vietnamese family -- a husband and wife and three young children. Sometimes the husband’s brother and his wife and child and sometimes the mother stay to look after the three children, so I share a real Vietnamese household.

Another way I have adapted is that I have been blessed with some really wonderful Vietnamese friends who have been, and always will be, there for me. I chose to move to Việt Nam precisely because of the culture and lifestyle and to become as Vietnamese as possible.


PERFECT FIT: Stella said she loves wearing áo dài (Việt Nam’s traditional dress). VNS Photo Nguyễn Á

Inner Sanctum: What do you like most in Việt Nam and what do you dislike?

I don’t like the oppressive heat and humidity in the summer, which often now extends into autumn. It’s very uncomfortable. What I love most is the people. I always think it’s people who make a country. And in general, the Vietnamese are amazing, dynamic, hard-working, accepting, forgiving, innovative, and hopeful.

I love the culture and the food, of course, but I think one simple thing I love the most is people and daily interactions. Being able to speak some Vietnamese opens up an amazing world and allows for random conversations with people on the bus or at the bus stop or on the street. Seeing familiar faces and getting to know them and being accepted by them as a casual friend is an amazing feeling.

In particular, I adore small dogs and have built up friendships with people who have wonderful dogs. They invite me into their homes to spend time with their dogs, let me look after them, and send me photos so I can keep in touch with their pets. It makes me feel part of an amazing Vietnamese family thanks to being able to converse in Vietnamese.

Inner Sanctum: Why did you decide to stay in Việt Nam for so long?

In 1995, I knew immediately this would be my home because of the people, the national spirit, and the energy. Many Vietnamese are so determined to get where they want to go. VNS